You begin to shift the core belief of self-reliance into interdependence, community, and connection (it’s nice to spend time with certain people rather than being alone all the time) You allow others to see you cry, frustrated, sad, grieving, and helpless (humanizing yourself as perfection doesn’t exist) Perhaps you share more vulnerable parts of yourself with others You begin understanding your needs and wants (rather than focusing on others’ needs and wants) You begin asking for your needs and wants (rather than assuming others can read your mind) You slowly allow more people into your emotional inner life (your walls starts falling down) You Reach Out More For Support & Ask For Help (Rather Than Isolating) You understand somatization: that some of your physical symptoms are a result of mental health or psychological issues (e.g. You’re more welcoming of touch like hugs/embraces from other people (especially those you care about and trust) Your body softens and relaxes because you are learning to establish safety in your body You have less somatic issues (headaches, migraines, stomaches, stress, fatigue) ”I really enjoy spending time with other people on the weekends. ”I really enjoy spending time by myself on the weekends. I might say no to that invitation tonight.” ”I don’t have to have all the answers to everything.” Let me a pause and reflect on this right now.” This pattern keeps happening over and over. “I wonder what’s really going on underneath my need to please others right now.” You start talking to yourself in ways like: “What would really happen if I disappoint other people and tell them no?” “Do I really want to take on this project right now if I really listen to myself?”

“What does my body need right now to rest and recuperate?”

Rather than doing things to distract, numb, or keep busy, you start from a place of intention and value. Practicing Living Mindfully (Rather Than Mindlessly) You validate and more fully understand your emotions rather than try to fix or get rid of themĪnger begins dissipating and decreasing (turns out sadness, loneliness, confusion, helplessness, and pain was underneath) You allow yourself to cry (tears are a shower for the soul) You Begin Feeling Your Emotions (Rather Than Minimizing Them) Here are 6 of the most common things I’ve noticed as clients heal from trauma.

Signs someone has experienced trauma